It’s not like me to be without the right words, but it’s taken me a few days to type this one out. You see, I feel like I don’t have endless advice to offer about marriage and I can’t articulate how it has changed me over the last 2 years for the better. I have given my experiences I’ve shared with Aaron much thought but as I sit at my laptop in our two bedroom apartment listening to the clanking of our dryer down the hall, these are the things I think as I contemplate our marriage…
- I’ll never forget how I drove to the Salt Lake temple two years ago on a snowy morning only to realize…I FORGOT MY WEDDING DRESS!!! Poor Aaron, the first time he saw me on our wedding day I was crying, so I can only imagine the thoughts that were going through his mind! I told him the situation and he simply hugged me & held my hand through my tears until the problem was solved.
- I love…love love love my new last name. I’ve finally learned how to write it cute, too.
- We are rarely happier when we’re curled up on the couch, watching a movie together. I won’t mind if we do it every Saturday until I die.
- My dad was the first one I hugged when we walked out of the temple that day.
- My biggest weakness as a wife is, shall we say, “avoidant behavior.” I’m an expert not saying what’s on my mind and expecting Aaron to do things exactly how I want them done. When he makes our bed, I get annoyed if the sheets aren’t tucked in properly. If I wake up with bad belly bloat because of the 11 o’clock snack-attack I had the night before and feel fat & ugly, I ignore him because, gosh. How could he ever love that about me? The truth is, though, Aaron loves my body more than I do, and he loves it exactly the way it is.
- Aaron is the most forgiving person on this planet.
- It’s helpful to have a human ladder around whenever I need him.
- We talk and talk and talk. Especially while in the car. I ask him how life insurance works and he’s patient to explain it until I understand it.
- Aaron is very tolerable of my dumb-blonde moments. The other morning I was organizing my running gear and found an old (4 years old, to be exact) pepper spray bottle. I thought, “Huh, I wonder if this still works.” I walked into the bathroom, flipped the safety lid, and spritz all of it into the sink. It was mere seconds until my eyes began burning and my throat itched and clogged up like crazy. I coughed and coughed as I walked down the hall into the living room and shyly said to Aaron, “Uh. I think I did something reaaaal stupid!” He looked up at me and I saw his senses flare up as he caught a whiff of that musty, pungent, burning odor. We kept every fan on and all the doors open until that rotten taste and smell faded away. #neveragain
- If I make dinner, he never hesitates to wash the dishes.
- It really sucks to sleep apart, for weeks at a time.
- Marriage is best when done with God.
- He’s never told me I couldn’t do something — buy that dress, train for marathons, take a nap, write a book, grow a blog, learn to sew…the list is endless. Marriage is about being loved, every minute of every day, and always having someone to believe in you.
- We have a million dreams for our future and we often discuss how we will make them come true.
- His constant, silly goofiness is my top 3 favorite things about him. The other 2 are his desire to learn (he’s always researching something), his wisdom (he truly has the best advice for anyone who asks for it) and his deep, unshakable testimony. Okay, that’s top 4 favorite things but I was never good at math anyways.
Love your wife,